Umama okhubazekileyo wabonisa njani umhlaba kusana lwakhe olunobhubhane

Ndahluke ngoku kunokuba ndandinjalo xa kwaqalisa ubhubhane. Andithethi nje ukuba ndiyekile ukuthambisa kwaye ndaqalisa ukunxiba iileggings njengeyunifomu yam yomsebenzi nokudlala, nangona, ewe, injalo. Ndingene kulo bhubhani ndineqhuma elimnandi lomntwana kunye nomkhwa wokulala ubusuku bonke, apho kwindawo ethile, ngamangqina ambalwa, ndaba ngumama wokwenyani. Sele kusondele unyaka unyana wam wazalwa, kwaye kuseyothusa kakhulu ukufumana esi sihloko. Ndinguye kwaye ndiya kuhlala ndingumama womntu! Ndiqinisekile ukuba luhlengahlengiso olukhulu kubazali abaninzi, nokuba umntwana wabo wazalwa ngexesha lokukhulelwa. bhubhane okanye hayi, kodwa kum, eyona nto imangalisayo kukuba bambalwa abakhe babona umntu ofana namava abazali Bam. Ndingumama okhubazekileyo. Ngokungakumbi, ndingumama okhubazekileyo osebenzisa isitulo esinamavili kwiindawo ezininzi. Ngaphambi kokuba ndazi ukuba ndikhulelwe, ukucinga ukuba ndibe ngumzali kwakusoyikeka kakhulu njengohambo oluya emajukujukwini. I-rocket yasekhaya.Kubonakala ngathi ayindim ndedwa oswele ukucinga. Ndide ndibe neminyaka eyi-33, andiqondi ukuba oogqirha babeza kuba nencoko enzulu nam malunga nokuba nomntwana. Ngaphambi koko, umbuzo wam wawudla ngokuchithwa. "Asinakwazi de sazi," ndiva ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Enye yeyona lahleko inkulu yokuba nomntwana ngexesha lobhubhani kukungakwazi ukwabelana naye nehlabathi. Ndithathe amakhulu emifanekiso yakhe-kwingubo eprintiweyo yelamuni, kwiphedi yakhe yediaper, esifubeni sikatata wakhe-kwaye ndathumela umyalezo. wonke umntu endandimazi, ndinqwenela ukuba abanye bambone ebhukuqeka kunye nemibimbi.Kodwa ukuhlala ekhaya kuye kwasinika into ethile.Kundibonelela ngobungasese kwaye kundivumela ukuba ndibone ubuchwephesha bokuba ngumama kwindawo yam yokuhlala.Ndavunyelwa ukuba ndingene ngokulula. le ndima ngaphandle kokuphononongwa kakhulu okanye impendulo engamkelekanga.Ukufumana isingqisho sethu kuthatha ixesha kunye nokuziqhelanisa.Ndafunda ukumphakamisa phantsi emgangathweni wam, ukungena nokuphuma kwibhedi yakhe, kwaye ndinyuke kwaye ngaphaya kwesango lomntwana-konke ngaphandle abaphulaphuli. Ukuqala kwam u-Otto ukuya kugqirha wakhe kwakuxa wayeneveki ezintathu ubudala kwaye ndandixhalabile.Yayiqala ngqa ukudlala indima yomama esidlangalaleni.Ndatsala imoto yethu ndangena kwindawo yokupaka iimoto, ndamfunqula emotweni. Isihlalo semoto, ndamsonga.Wazisonga esuswini sam.Ndasityhalela ngakwisibhedlele, apho kukho ivalenti emacangweni angaphambili. Sithe xa siphuma egaraji, ndeva amehlo akhe esiwa kum.Andiyazi ukuba ebecinga ntoni - mhlawumbi ndimkhumbuze ngomntu, okanye ukhumbule ukuba ulibele ukuthenga ubisi evenkileni. Intsingiselo emva kokuthetha kwakhe, ayizange itshintshe isimo sengqondo sokuba ukujonga kwakhe okungayekiyo kundenze ndaziva njengoko sasidlula kuye, ngokungathi ufuna ndilahle usana lwam phezu kwekhonkrithi nanini na. ukubuthelana ekhaya.ndiyayazi into endiyenzayo.He is safe with me. Wayebukele inyathelo ngalinye lohambo lwethu, wolule intamo yakhe ukuze asijonge de sanyamalala ngaphakathi. waphinda wasijonga ngamehlo abomvu xa u-Otto egqibile ukusixilonga waza wabuyela egaraji. Enyanisweni, ukubekw' esweni kwakhe kwaba yincwadi yazo zonke iindibano zakhe. Sihlandlo ngasinye, ndandigxadazela ndibuyela emotweni yethu. Nokuba yeyiphi injongo, umzuzu ngamnye esiwuchitha esidlangalaleni uhlala phezu kwembali ekhathazayo endingakwaziyo ukuyihoya. Ayizizo zonke iindawo zokudibana nomntu ongamaziyo eziziva zihlasimlis’ umzimba.Abanye balungile, njengomfo okwilifti eqhuqha ibunzi lika-Otto ehleli phantsi komnqwazi wakhe obomvu oqaqambileyo onesiqu esiluhlaza esiphuma phezulu, kufuneka sicacise ukuba omnye wabafundi bam wanitha. umnqwazi wakhe "Tom-Otto". Kukho amaxesha adidayo, njengaxa sasimsa epakini okokuqala u-Otto – iqabane lam uMikha wayemtyhala ngepram ndabe mna ndiqengqeleka-ibhinqa elalidlula ngendlela lajonga u-Otto, lanqwala kum.” ukhe wangena emotweni yakho ngalento?" wabuza.Ndanqumama, ndibhidekile.Ingaba wayenomfanekiso wam njengenja yosapho, ndidlale indima eyodwa yethoyi ephilayo yonyana wam?Ezinye zeempendulo zethu zazinobubele, njengokundibona ndisa u-Otto kwilori njengabasebenzi bezococeko. balayishe inkunkuma yethu kwilori yabo kwaye ndiqhwabe ngathi ndimbambe nge-pinky Landing yam efakwe kwiizembe ezintathu. Nokuba siyintoni na injongo, umzuzu ngamnye esiwuchitha esidlangalaleni uhleli phezu kwembali ekhathazayo endingenako ukuyihoya.Abantu abakhubazekileyo bajongana nezithintelo zokuthathwa kwabantwana, ukuphulukana nokugcinwa komntwana, ukunyanzelwa kunye nokuvala inzala ngenkani, kunye nokuphelisa ukukhulelwa ngenkani. Ukulwela ukubonwa njengomzali othembekileyo nofanelekileyo kuko konke endinako. Ngubani othandabuzayo amandla am okugcina unyana wam ekhuselekile? Ngubani okhangela iimpawu zokungahoywa kwam? Umzuzu ngamnye kunye nababukeleyo ngumzuzu ekufuneka ndiwubonise .Nokuba nokucinga ngokuchitha imva kwemini epakini kuwenza uxinezeleke umzimba wam. Ndizama ukweyisela u-Otto ukuba konke esikufunayo yimiqolomba epholileyo apho sinokugcina abaphulaphuli bengekho kwaye senze ngathi iqamza lethu liyindalo iphela. Logama sinotata, iFaceTime, i-takeout, kunye nebhafu yemihla ngemihla, siya kwenziwe.Kutheni umngcipheko wokungajongwa ngendlela engeyiyo xa sinokuyibaleka ngokupheleleyo ingqalelo yethu? U-Otto akazange avume, ngokukrakra, ngokukhawuleza kunokuba ndandisazi ukuba umntwana unombono. Wakhupha isikhalo esiphezulu njenge-teapot, evakalisa ukubila kwayo, ukuba kupheliswe kuphela ngokushiya imivalo yendlu yethu encinane. Kangangeenyanga, wathetha. ngaphandle kwehlabathi elibanzi njengenkosazana exhalabileyo yeDisney.Intlantsi yamehlo akhe ekuseni yandenza ndacinga ukuba wayefuna ukujikeleza phantsi kwesibhakabhaka esivulekileyo aze acule nabantu angabaziyo emarikeni. Xa eqala ukuhlala egumbini nomzala wakhe uSam - naye ongumntwana omncinci - u-Otto waphela yintsini esingazange siyive. i-intshi ezimbalwa ebusweni bakhe - "Ngaba ngokwenene?" Wangathi uyabuza.Wabeka isandla sakhe esidleleni sikaSam, lwaza uvuyo. USam wayengashukumi, amehlo ethe ntsho, exakwe kukuxinanisa. Lo mzuzu wawumnandi, kodwa iintlungu ezibuthathaka zaphakama esifubeni sam. "Musa ukuthanda kakhulu! Usenokungathandwa kwakhona!" U-Otto wayengazi ukuba makayilinganise njani na indlela uSam asabela ngayo. Akazange aqonde ukuba uSam wayengabuyisi. Usana lwam luyasikhupha eqokobheni kwaye luzimisele ukuba siye kwihlabathi.Inxalenye yam ifuna ukuba ayijikeleze-yive ukuphithizela kwezihlwele kwimida yeparade, ivumba i-sunscreen kunye ne-chlorine concoction Idama lokuqubha likawonke-wonke, live igumbi lizele ngabantu abaculayo. Kodwa u-Otto wayengaqondi ukuba ukubona ihlabathi kuthetha ukubonwa. kwaye ukungakhululeki kuya kuba kunye njengomntu. Akayazi ixhala lokuthetha into engalunganga, ukunxiba into engalunganga, ukwenza into engalunganga. Ndingamfundisa njani ukuba abe nesibindi? Zimele xa Iimbono zabanye zivakala yaye zikho kuyo yonke indawo?Yazi ukuba zeziphi iingozi ofanele uzibeke?Ukuzikhusela?Ndingamfundisa njani into ukuba nam andikayiqondi? Njengoko ingqondo yam ijikeleza imingcipheko kunye nemivuzo yokushiya ikhaya, njengoko ndithetha nabahlobo, njengoko ndifunda uTwitter, ndiyaqonda ukuba ayindim ndedwa owoyika ukuphinda ungene ebaleni. Uninzi lwethu lufumana isithuba ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa okokuqala ebomini bethu, kwaye iyasitshintsha-isinika ithuba lokuzama ukubonakaliswa kwesini, siphumle imizimba yethu, kwaye siziqhelanise nobudlelwane obuhlukeneyo kunye nemisebenzi.Singazikhusela njani ezo ndawo zintsha kuthi xa sibuyela kuhlobo oluthile lwesiqhelo ?Kuvakala njengombuzo ongazange ubonwe ngaphambili, kodwa ngandlel’ ithile, le yimibuzo ebesisoloko siyibuza ukusukela ekuqaleni kolu bhubhani. Singazigcina njani sikhuselekile kwaye sihlale sinxibelelene? umnqweno kunye nengxaki uziva uqhelekile. Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kubhubhani, umama wazisa usapho lwakhe lweveki nganye iZoom. Rhoqo emva kwemini ngoLwesibini, yena noodadewethu kunye nam singqamanisa kwiscreen iiyure ezimbini. Akukho ajenda okanye izibophelelo. , okanye epakini.Ngamanye amaxesha kwakufuneka sithule kuba kwakukho usana olukhalayo ngasemva (oh molo, Otto!), kodwa sasihlala sibonakala, iveki emva kweveki. manyani. Ndingamfundisa njani ukuba abe nesibindi?Yima ngokwakho xa izimvo zabanye zingxola kwaye zixhaphakile? Ngenye imva kwemini yangoLwesibini, njengoko ndandilungiselela idinga lomnye ugqirha e-Otto, ndakhulula ivalve ukuze ndithintele ixhala lam lokungena rhoqo kwe-valet. Ndandijonge phambili kolu hambo lufutshane ukusuka egaraji ukuya esibhedlele, kwaye olu loyiko lukhulu. Ibisiba mbi kakhulu.Ndandiphuthelwa bubuthongo kubusuku obungephi phambi komhla wokuthandana, ndikhumbula iinkumbulo zokujongwa, ndizama ukucinga ingcinga ezazidangezela engqondweni yam njengoko wayesijongile, ndinexhala lokuba kwixesha elizayo uOtto wayeza kulila. uza kwenza njalo? Ndabelana ngale nto kunye nosapho lwam ngapha kwesikrini ndiqinise umqala kwaye iinyembezi zisehla ebusweni bam. Ndithe nje ukuba ndiyithethe ngokuvakalayo, andizange ndikholelwe ukuba ndingazange ndibazise kubo ngokukhawuleza. Yiva oko kwenza ukuba amava azive emncinci nangakumbi. Baye baqinisekisa izakhono zam, baqinisekisa uxinzelelo, kwaye bahlangabezana nam konke oko. Ngentsasa elandelayo, njengoko ndandingena kwindawo yokupaka eqhelekileyo, ifowuni yam yakhala ngemiyalezo."Sikunye wena!" Ukumanyana kwabo kwadala umqamelo ondingqongileyo njengoko ndanditsalela u-Otto kwisitulo sakhe senqwelo-mafutha, ndambopha esifubeni sam, ndaza ndasityhalela ngasesibhedlele. Elo khaka lelona landichukumisa kakhulu ngaloo ntsasa. Njengoko mna no-Otto sithatha ngononophelo amanyathelo abo okuqala kweli hlabathi, ndandinqwenela ukuba ndingawasongela amaqamza ethu, amaqamza amade, ndingakhathali ngabantu abajongileyo, kwaye bangenakonakala. Kodwa andiqondi ukuba yingxaki endinokuyicombulula. ndedwa ngokupheleleyo.Njengoko ubhubhane usichaphazela, sinxibelelene ngokungenakuhluthwa.Kuninzi kuphela esinokukwenza ukuzikhusela; Sikhuseleka ngakumbi xa sibeka phambili impilo yoluntu lonke. Ndikhunjuzwa ngayo yonke into esiyenzileyo ukukhuselana kulo nyaka uphelileyo - ukuhlala ekhaya kangangoko sinakho, sinxibe iimaski, sigcina umgama wethu ukusigcina sikhuselekile sonke. .Ngokuqinisekileyo, ayinguye wonke umntu.Andihlali kwilizwe leeunicorns kunye nothuli olukhazimlayo.Kodwa abaninzi bethu baye bafunda ukudala ikhusi omnye komnye ebusweni bezoyikiso. Ukubukela le ndibano yentsebenziswano kundenza ndizibuze ukuba yeyiphi enye into esinokuyakha ngezi zakhono zitsha sizifunde endle.Ngaba singakwazi ukuphinda senze kwa ezo ndlela zokukhathalela impilo yethu yeemvakalelo? Kungakhangeleka njani ukwenza omnye nomnye atshintshe ?Ukuhlangana kwakhona ngaphandle kokulindela ukuba yonke into kufuneka ijongeke, ivakale, ishukume okanye ihlale ifana?Khumbula imini yonke - emizimbeni yethu - kuthatha umngcipheko ongakanani ukubonakala, singasathethi ke ngokuchasa? UMicah, u-Otto kunye nam saqala isiko ngaphambi kokuba siphume endlwini yonke imihla. Samisa emnyango, sakha unxantathu omncinci, saza saphuzana. Phantse njengespell sokukhusela, umthambo othambileyo. Ndiyathemba ukuba siyamfundisa u-Otto ukuba abe nesibindi kwaye ububele; ukuba azimele kuyo yonke ingxokozelo, avulele indawo abanye; ukuthatha imingcipheko elungileyo kunye nokubonelela abanye ngonyawo oluthambileyo; ukudala imida kunye nokuhlonipha imida yabanye.